Monday, April 29, 2013

Should I Quit?


Wheww....I feel so guilty for not being able to update this blog.  I used to update this regularly but I was in deep thoughts for a couple of weeks now and probably the reason why I tend to lax on things.  You might be interested to know what had been going through my mind lately and yes, it is a thing that requires a careful consideration.  At first, I'm not feeling comfortable sharing what had been in my thoughts lately but I've finally decided to share it though, hoping that I could found someone who can relate to my situation and give me some personal thoughts and advise.

I am thinking of quitting my job this year.  I am being paid well, that's a fact.  But lately, I suddenly thought that I am missing a lot of things in life because of working abroad. Seeing my family everyday is one obvious reason of course, but apart from that, I'm yearning to live a normal life where I could do the usual things that a normal woman and Mom could do.  It may sound intriguing I know, but believe me...I'm missing those little stuff that I can't do at the moment.  I'm working on shifts and this has been going on for years.  I don't have a normal sleeping pattern for years now. But that I got accustomed to over the years, not much of a concern.

Whenever I read the blogs of my co bloggers and friends, I can't help but wish that I could do the same things as what they've been doing.  Simple stuff like learning and mastering the art of baking, preparing surprise meals for the kids, movie marathon with them, attending Sunday mass, tendering my home garden, attending mall activities and seeing our cute shih-tzu pets with their usual tricks are only some of the simple things that I'd been missing a lot.  I also love doing crafts and my son inherited that from me.  How I wish we could do it together more often....

There's no doubt that my continuous years of working in the Philippines and abroad had contributed a lot to the family financially, but more than that, it helps me realize my self worth and enabled me to experience self fulfillment having had the privilege to work for a living, live a comfortable life and further my career.  It was indeed a blessing and I will continually thank God for that!

But I have reached the point where I suddenly felt the longing to do the things which I enjoyed most. That what I'm doing now suddenly becomes a routine and I just woke up one day not having the zest for work. I suddenly thought that I should probably start doing things that will make me happy.  For now, my hands are really full.  I'm juggling with my full time job, blogging, looking after my small business and reaching out to my kids.  Do I really need to do this? Well, probably not!  

I'm now thinking of preparing for my grand exit from the rat race.  It's quite a difficult decision though, as it is a good paying job with good set of benefits that others may not be getting from where they are working.  But I have to make a choice.  My husband and kids had shown their support and are happy with my decision but they told me that in the end, it's my choice and I have to choose what would make me happy as this is more of their concern.  If I would enumerate the pros and cons, this would probably be a very long post and you might get bored reading it further.  Nothing is final though but for now, I'm more to following my heart desires.

Thoughts?  





33 comments:

reese said...

oh, tough decision indeed...
right follow what your heart says and goodluck

Mommy Maye said...

Hmmm. I want to say something but it skips my head. Well anyway, it's difficult when you are a mother and you are far away from your family. I have been contemplating whether to quit my full time work to take the risk of working at home or becoming full time in our small business. But there are lots of things to consider kasi. I am just lucky my work is just near our home.

Follow what will make you happy sis. Working away from your family doesn't make u a lesser mother. But you can't turn back time.

May God guide you sis.

Mommy Maye

Marie Bulatao said...

Krissa, everything will fall into place, you will see.

rona said...

Oh sis! Para sakin, I go for what your heart desires. The fact is, you have done so much na for your family. You've been there naman na for many many years. I's time to come back and be with your loved ones. Tama ka, madami namimiss. I think your sacrifices are enough na. Your kids are growing into young adults so they need you most on helping and guiding them at your presence is precious. Grabe ako ang unang unang magccelebrate pag decided ka na. Live life with your family to the fullest Mommy!

projectmarie.com said...

Oh, Have you read Rich Dad, Poor Dad? I think you can already exit from the rat race especially since you have been doing some investing here and there

Farida said...

Pray about it sis and consider again the pros and cons. I'm sure our good Lord will sustain your family's needs no matter what your decision will be :)

jellybelly said...

If I would be ok financially should I quit my job, then I would do it. I wouldn't want to be like 60 and look back at my life wishing I had done this and that instead of having only work in my memories. Time with family is especially important. Your decision whatever it is will be the right one. Don't regret anything.

Melgie Campbell said...

Decide what makes you happy, :) and go for it..:)

maxine musings said...

i quit my job after my eldest was born, i like to be with my hubby and kids...though sometimes there are financial difficulties...nagagawan naman ng paraan
sometimes i'm thinking to work again but not to work abroad di ko kayang malayo sa mga anak ko
follow your heart

Lady Anne Abit said...

I feel you, it's really hard to juggle the responsibilities sometimes. Just follow your heart! :)

Leslie said...

I can relate sis! Super dilemma ko yan when I had Sam. But you have to see the bigger picture always. As for me I plan to migrate with them to New Zealand or Canada, and we have the best chance if I stay here. As for u, kung anu yung sinasbi ng puso mo, yun ang gawen mo.

Mys Laguitao said...

That's a difficult situation. I wouldn't know what to do. Whatever feels right siguro, but you really have to weigh everything.

Rovie Aguis said...

Being in that kind of situation is really difficult especially na very competitive ka and you really want to achieve something in your career and contribute to your family financially.

Do what you need to do Sis and follow your heart's desire. If the only reason left now why you are still working is because of money or your finances, I suggest you quit your job na lang. Laging nagagawan ng paraan ang pera but the lost time spent with your loved ones especially your kids hindi na maibabalik yun.

I believe you have done so much already and tama si Ning, lumalaki na mga kids mo at they need your guidance. You are just blessed na mababait sila but I'm sure above all the materials things na naibibigay mo, mas masaya sila sa presence mo lalo na't nasa malayo din si hubby mo.

I'm just an FB message away if you need somebody to listen. Mwah!

Allan said...

for me, if you think you had enough earnings to build up business that will give you more time for your family, go for it.

eLLa (r) said...

If it feels heavy every time you wakes up, then I think it's about time to quit. Being happy must be the priority in working.

caty said...

I understand you sis, been there and done that. I quit my job without thinking of further consequence. It's just that - i am not happy anymore but then im glad i found a home here - blogging. May you be guided by our Almighty sis with whatever decision you have.

aby ♥ said...

you have a small business and more financially stable, i think it's time to follow your heart's desire :)

Aileen A said...

I agree, you need to pray about this before you make the final decision. Ask God for wisdom, and if you really want to follow your heart, maybe it's worth asking Him to put your heart in the right place first, that is, it should be aligned in His will and perfect timing. Only then will you have peace with whatever you decide on. You can never go wrong with God. :-)

Dominique Goh said...

I feel that you should do what it is deep in your heart. You already have the answer and just need to take the steps to get it done.

rona said...

Agree! To the 10th power!!! Uuwi na yan! Uuwi na yan! Haha

tet ^0^ said...

Sometimes, you really need to let go of the things that's been hard for you than dragging yourself on what you don't want. I have the same experience with my work before and letting go may have some sacrifices but I was able to move on forward and made all the sacrifices worth it. Go! You can do that with more prayers. :)

JanzCrystalz said...

That's a tough decision! I'm thinking of doing the same, quit my job and stay with my family all day long. But it will be difficult for us if only hubby will work. hindi kaya ng income niya alone to support us.

Marie Angeli Laxa said...

Pray, Krizza. Ask for guidance from the Lord. Only He knows what is best for you and for your family. :-)

Cym Marzan said...

They say that when you need to choose between work and family, choose family because time with them is more precious. You can get insights from wahmderfullife.com and see if working at home is for you. There are a lot of options now. And before you quit, build your war chest of at least 6 months of savings and considering your benefits now as expenses when working from home.

Kristine Gavilano said...

I always wanted to work abroad as a nurse, but after I delivered my son, hubby won't allow me to go anymore. It was always my heart's desire, so I was brokenhearted. It could help us big time in our finances and I could buy whatever thing I want.

Now, I can see most of my college batchmates are enjoying their big bucks salary while I am settled here in the countryside working as a contractual community health nurse. My hubby is a good provider, so our family can live with some of our wants satisfied.You know, there's still something in me that wants to have a high-paid salary(that means going abroad), but seeing my son everyday, feel his kiss, have his arms wrapped around my neck, and hear him call me, just remind me that I'm already blessed here where I am right now.

We all have to make some sacrifices to gain something we think is more important. Win some, lose some and vice versa. Just always ask God for His guidance in all your decisions.

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways, acknowledge Him and He shall direct your path."

May God bless you.

JanzCrystalz said...

I pray too for your decision sis. God Bless!

Vera said...

I would love to say, follow your heart. Someday I'd like to finally quit too. I hope it is sooner than later. Or maybe we just need to find something we can be very passionate about that we wouldn't mind having to work 8 hours daily...

Meikah Ybañez-Delid said...

That is indeed a crossroad you are in. I guess, all you need to ask is how will this action affect your family in the long term? After all, it's family that is more important. :)

BlueBird Travel said...

Tough decision. I can feel half of your feelings. I live in abroad for past 15 years. First I came to learn and now I am doing my job over here. I rarely get time to see my parents and relations. That’s on Christmas day. I can feel you. What I am saying is always follow your heart. Because you are a blogger and I am pretty sure that bloggers have a good mind and they take the correct decision always. Even though you quit your job you will find a new one. But family, there will be nothing to replace. Yes follow your heart dear.

Van Cruz-Gabaza said...

6 months after I gave birth to my son, I had to quit my work. been employed in that company for 8 years, job was stable but I followed what my heart was telling me. no one was there to look after my son so my husband and i decided that it's better that I stay at home and take care of my family. i'm happy with the decision we made. i read somewhere, and it said something like "i am a mom first, then a working mom next." :-) goodluck sis, follow what your heart desires and God will lead the way for you. God bless you!

Rosemarie/Gven-Rose said...

that is something that is not easy to decide but surely things will fall into places at the right time... whatever your decision is i believe you will consider the welfare of your family

Ron Leyba said...

They are right. Follow what your hear desires and what can make you happy! You work hard enough and I think you already have what it takes to quit the job and start some sort of family business wherein you and your family members can become a part of.

Sabbatical Gal said...

i agree with ron... plus prayer for discernment might help too. good luck nd GOD bless! :)

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