Life Of An OFW (Part 2)

I'm back with the part 2 of my post! Again, tackling topics about being an OFW.  From part 1, I had mentioned that there are some disadvantages that you have to face being an OFW and the most notable of which is meeting undesirable people in your work place.  Sometimes, when you are in a foreign land, you feel totally helpless and you will find comfort and relief knowing that there are some people of the same nationality that could assist you in times of needs.  People whom you will treat as your real friends away from home and country.  Sad to say, people had different values and life style and different point of views, too. Sometimes when working abroad, people got tied up with the determination to keep the job to the point of discrediting their "kababayans".  Of course, these are isolated cases. It's just that my first experience with the first company that I've worked with was not totally a happy experience.  I've worked with people who are just after themselves, who will do everything just to keep the job and will forget about friendship in lieu of keeping the source of income alive. Well, I couldn't blame them for they might have pressures from their families but sometimes, I just personally believe that we are all not in our own country so we have to be more united and more concerned about each other's welfare.  Things didn't happen to how I expect it to be and I was so disgusted.  Sometimes, I feel like I'm facing people with masks as I could not decipher what their true feelings are.  To cut it short, living in a foreign land requires perseverance and a sheer determination to succeed.  "Survival of the fittest", ika nga.  This is where I learned to become totally independent.  To cure myself when I'm sick, feed myself when I'm hungry, go to places alone, entertain myself and best of all just trust myself.  I came to a realization that I couldn't simply rely on anyone and I also couldn't just trust anyone that much.  Sad to say, but this is what I've faced during my first three years.   I've been through a lot of hardships.... to the point that I almost gave up.   

My only consolation then is my family and my faith to God.  I never regret going through this experience.  Through this, I became more prayerful.  During times of troubles and when I'm feeling down and out, I could only talk to God through prayers. My faith drives me to continue.  I always believe that everything was God's plan and He will not bring me problems which I couldn't overcome.  I hold on to that faith and this is where I regained back my strenght and the will power to move on.

On a brighter side, I am happy that I was able to deliver my family's needs especially my kids.  We were able to give them a comfortable life and an assurance that they could have a bright future ahead.  I was able to do a lot of improvements in my properties, give my kids their needs and wants and also support my Mom in her old age, giving her all her personal needs and required medications.  I was able to bring my kids out of the country, explore exciting places in the Philippines and spend some quality time and total relaxation with them during my scheduled vacations.  I also succeed to open a personal savings account for both of them which could help them with something to start with after schooling.

I'm happy to say that things are falling into places.  When I moved to a new company March of this year, I was with high hopes for a continued success in my career, but my dream was torn down into pieces when I encountered problems during the third month of my employment.  I almost quit because of this.  I couldn't take the pressures and the unpredictable behavior of my Boss but then again, I resorted to prayers and asked for His guidance.  God brought me to where I am now as this is what I've prayed for before I decided to change my company.  Again, God never failed me, things are getting better now.  I did try to find His message for every miseries that I have gone through and I'm happy to say that I'm getting His message now.

On a final note, I would say that being an OFW is not a bed of roses.  Working in a foreign land is a big challenge that requires self discipline, perseverance, determination and a strong faith in God.  If you have all these and is ready to take all those challenges with you, then that's the time that you could feel and enjoy the fruits of your labor.
I'm happy to say that despite the distance, my kids grew up to be responsible and good children.  They knew how to value our "hard work" and our relationship is still intact.  They were left alone with just my Mom and a house helper but I'm proud to say that they never gave me any problems when we were away.  Distance is not a hindrance to mold your children to become better persons.  In every relationship, communication is very important and in our life's struggle, it is our personal relationship with God and our faith that brings us together and help us overcome whatever difficulties that comes along our way.

Comments

  1. Thanks for sharing sis. Thoughts to ponder especially on our plan of working overseas...

    Really learned a lot from here :-)

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  2. I hear you. My mom is in the same boat. With all these years of her being far from us, it wasn't at all bad. She became more resilient and forgiving since she converted to Islam. We can't blame her for her strong-willed decisions because I know how hard it is to resist from all sorts of temptation. I'm happy that she has found comfort in her new faith. Hands down to all the genuine hardworking unsung heroes of our time -- the OFWs!

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  3. Thanks for sharing your experiences. Chin up and be strong, racial discrimination is one thing but crab mentality from our own kababayans is far worst. Hands down to you.

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  4. I haven't tried working abroad, and my parents are just working here trying to make ends meet. I used to think that being and OFW is so easy, but I realize that I am wrong. It is so hard in your part as well as with your family.

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  5. Super touching, super real. I am not an OFW but I have cousins who are in the same boat. Thanks for sharing a very thoughtful post.

    Hope to see u back: www.iconnectworld.com

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  6. Very heartwarming to learn that you persevered and triumphed and trusted in Him.

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  7. The sacrifices you make are very admirable! You are the hero of the 20th century. God bless all your endeavors!

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  8. i can totally relate, i'm also an OFW and it taught me a whole lot of things...

    goodluck and keep the faith!

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  9. I can relate to your post, My Mom was an OFW for 15 years... hang on and pray always

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  10. Thank you for sharing this. It's very inspiring.

    Stay strong!

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  11. Thanks for sharing this. My sister was also OFW..and soon I'll be.and my only fear is for my kids not to be that close to me..

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  12. so true some of our kababayans would only think of themselves,.. so difficult to find real friends out there, I know it, cause I've been there before.. It's really hard, family is a great source of courage.. as long as you have them you know you can overcome every hardships in life.... = )

    very inspiring post.. you just got yourself a new follower here, I hope I get a follow back thanx..

    http://filipinawifesdiary.blogspot.com/

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  13. I feel you sis. My MIL is an OFW and has been that way for 20 years. She had so many trials in her life but now she is finally reaping her benefits. She is living proof that if you just hold on to your dreams time will come and success will come to you. And once it comes it will come abundantly and you can not stop it. :)

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  14. It's good to hear that your kids were still close to you and grew up responsible even though you were away from them

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  15. i symphatize with you...i have tita and uncle's who are OFWs... may ganyang experience at same feeling din sila, hirap talaga mangibang bayan - you have to sacrifice a lot - for yourself and family at kailangang mahusay na pakikisama diyan, i just pray na walang masamang mangyari (maaksidente, ma-rape or patayin) sa kanila and of course sa mga migranteng pinoy, including you...
    i link-up my relatives to MIGRANTE International, para may malapitan sila in case na may problem
    hindi naman kasi magtatrabaho sa ibang bansa ang mga pinoy kung may trabaho at nakabubuhay na pasahod dito sa pilipinas...at isa iyan sa mga isinisigaw at ipinaglalaban ko

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  16. Quoting: "I also succeed to open a personal savings account for both of them which could help them with something to start with after schooling."

    Wow. That's really a wow! I somehow can imagine how organized and determined you are as a mom and as a person. Grabe. I was like really amazed and I admired you more than ever before!

    Mama Krizza, the Lord was, and is always with you no matter what. He knows how strong you are at talagang nalalampasan mo lahat ng mga pagsubok at difficulties dyan. Stay with that faith and I'm happy for you!

    Jesus loves you and He alone could help you in times of need.

    God bless you Sis! You're a wonderful mom and woman.

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  17. Being an OFW is tough especially being away from your family :-( Life is like that, somebody has to suffer the coincedence but in the long run :-) the help you had is very much appreciated. Be strong and may GOD bless you always :-)

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  18. I understand your sentiments because my hubby is an ofw and I hate it when relatives or neighbor keep asking for pasalubong and will hate you for life if you don't give any

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  19. And other people (especially relatives) think it's easy to make money abroad. *sigh*

    My mom always tells me that God will bless you more than others when you're hardworking. When you're humble and when the time is right.

    I hope you will always have the best of blessings and a lot of luck! :)

    And keep blogging~ online friends can be a very good source of strength!

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  20. indeed there are many trials along the way but if you really have the drive and the courage and faith that things will be okay, it will turn to be as good as you can imagine. I do hope we can also fulfill our dreams to go and work abroad.

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  21. It's nice to hear that your children have grown up well despite your absence. I have just recently talked to a teenager whose father was an OFW and she shared to me how sad it made her feel that her father would be with them only a month or two each year. Though she understood that it was for their benefit, she still wished things were different. You could really hear the longing in her voice. She's never told her parents though about how she feels.

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  22. my husband became an OFW for a year before we came here to join him. it was hard on my part since i had to look after my 2 kids. thankfully we did good.

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  23. thanks for sharing.. you are so lucky that your children had grown up good and responsible despite your absence.

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