I'm back with the part 2 of my post! Again, tackling topics about being an OFW. From part 1, I had mentioned that there are some disadvantages that you have to face being an OFW and the most notable of which is meeting undesirable people in your work place. Sometimes, when you are in a foreign land, you feel totally helpless and you will find comfort and relief knowing that there are some people of the same nationality that could assist you in times of needs. People whom you will treat as your real friends away from home and country. Sad to say, people had different values and life style and different point of views, too. Sometimes when working abroad, people got tied up with the determination to keep the job to the point of discrediting their "kababayans". Of course, these are isolated cases. It's just that my first experience with the first company that I've worked with was not totally a happy experience. I've worked with people who are just after themselves, who will do everything just to keep the job and will forget about friendship in lieu of keeping the source of income alive. Well, I couldn't blame them for they might have pressures from their families but sometimes, I just personally believe that we are all not in our own country so we have to be more united and more concerned about each other's welfare. Things didn't happen to how I expect it to be and I was so disgusted. Sometimes, I feel like I'm facing people with masks as I could not decipher what their true feelings are. To cut it short, living in a foreign land requires perseverance and a sheer determination to succeed. "Survival of the fittest", ika nga. This is where I learned to become totally independent. To cure myself when I'm sick, feed myself when I'm hungry, go to places alone, entertain myself and best of all just trust myself. I came to a realization that I couldn't simply rely on anyone and I also couldn't just trust anyone that much. Sad to say, but this is what I've faced during my first three years. I've been through a lot of hardships.... to the point that I almost gave up.
My only consolation then is my family and my faith to God. I never regret going through this experience. Through this, I became more prayerful. During times of troubles and when I'm feeling down and out, I could only talk to God through prayers. My faith drives me to continue. I always believe that everything was God's plan and He will not bring me problems which I couldn't overcome. I hold on to that faith and this is where I regained back my strenght and the will power to move on.
On a brighter side, I am happy that I was able to deliver my family's needs especially my kids. We were able to give them a comfortable life and an assurance that they could have a bright future ahead. I was able to do a lot of improvements in my properties, give my kids their needs and wants and also support my Mom in her old age, giving her all her personal needs and required medications. I was able to bring my kids out of the country, explore exciting places in the Philippines and spend some quality time and total relaxation with them during my scheduled vacations. I also succeed to open a personal savings account for both of them which could help them with something to start with after schooling.
I'm happy to say that things are falling into places. When I moved to a new company March of this year, I was with high hopes for a continued success in my career, but my dream was torn down into pieces when I encountered problems during the third month of my employment. I almost quit because of this. I couldn't take the pressures and the unpredictable behavior of my Boss but then again, I resorted to prayers and asked for His guidance. God brought me to where I am now as this is what I've prayed for before I decided to change my company. Again, God never failed me, things are getting better now. I did try to find His message for every miseries that I have gone through and I'm happy to say that I'm getting His message now.
On a final note, I would say that being an OFW is not a bed of roses. Working in a foreign land is a big challenge that requires self discipline, perseverance, determination and a strong faith in God. If you have all these and is ready to take all those challenges with you, then that's the time that you could feel and enjoy the fruits of your labor.
I'm happy to say that despite the distance, my kids grew up to be responsible and good children. They knew how to value our "hard work" and our relationship is still intact. They were left alone with just my Mom and a house helper but I'm proud to say that they never gave me any problems when we were away. Distance is not a hindrance to mold your children to become better persons. In every relationship, communication is very important and in our life's struggle, it is our personal relationship with God and our faith that brings us together and help us overcome whatever difficulties that comes along our way.