Got this image from my facebook wall and this brought me to ponder on the message written. How do we really spell success? Well...I guess you are already aware that I am not referring to the the actual spelling of the word success, rather I am referring to how do we treat those opportunities and failures as they come our way.
More often, we would come to a point in our lives where we really have nothing, as in no accomplishments, no savings, no investments, no new gadgets, no new things, no friends, no opportunities waiting and when we reach this point in life, the question would be, "How do you manage when you have nothing?"
I remembered a saying, "Our happiness depends not on the quality of life that we have but on what is our attitude towards life." We are happy if we think we are! In today's world where our daily lives is often surrounded by material things, we have the tendency to depend on wealth as the source of our happiness. I would admit, I was once hooked into getting new gadgets every now and then, having signature perfumes, bags and accessories but later in life, my desire for these things died naturally. Well...there are times when I still get fascinated with these but the difference is I have a better "self control" now. Would I say self control or self discipline? Whatever it is, the point is, I guess I have already reached that part where I am in a better position to prioritize things. Well...at least, things that matter most to me. Now, I am not in a rush to get the latest gadget in town. Although at times, I would say I can afford it, but I would rather spend it for something that never fades or never devaluates. Something like spending for a quality time with my family like going for a vacation somewhere or spending it for the improvement of our house where everybody would benefit. I find this to be more meaningful. I guess, I became less selfish now. Before I spend, I would always tell myself, "If I buy this, I would be happy, but if I spend this for this thing, all of us will be happy." Afterwards, I would make my final decision. I still buy for myself, for sure, but I mellowed down a lot.
Now going to the second one, "The way you behave when you have everything". I guess this has something to do with, how do we value our work? How do we value our earnings? How do we value the important people in our lives? This all boil down to our behavior towards life. I've known a lot of people in the past who had reach that peak in their career where they earn really quite big and later on, everything simply vanished. Why? Maybe because they cannot control their spending. They find more ways to spend their money. Be it endless shopping, gambling and anything you can think of. An old folk once told me, if you love and value your earnings, this will also love you in return. Well, this is hypothetical but reading in between the lines, I know what he meant, we work hard to earn, so it's just right to value the fruits of our labor. Spend according to our needs. Do not let our hard earned money be put into waste. Do not spend like there is no tomorrow. Until now, I still remember what does that message implies.
Now, I am slowly training my kids to value their "hard work" and to put the fruits of their labor into good use. I have one practice as a Mom that I would like to reveal here. I let my kids keep the money intended for their tuition fees after they get their scholarship. I tell them, they became scholars because of their hard work and I take it like they earned their school fees, as a result. Now these become their savings which they can put into good use later on. I never encourage them to spend this "hard earned" money for buying and spending on fancy things. I am encouraging them to keep it first and invest it later. I am training them this early to be responsible in handling their finances.
This way, I can be assured that they will grow up to be responsible people. Success, I guess is how we make things happen.
Sharing my thoughts for the day!