Sunday, November 13, 2011

Thoughts On Happiness....

For the past few days, I've been feeling down and lazy with everything, and been constantly chatting with my blog pal Lainy almost everyday and we discovered that we are sharing the same feelings and sentiments for no apparent reason at all. Then later, we just tried to figure out ourselves what might be the reason for feeling that way. That night after I've written my post for this blog, I slept quite late and was contemplating on what had caused me to feel "down" and "low". The next day, I got a text message which is just actually a forwarded message which reads:

"People get lost when they think of happiness as a destination. We are always thinking that someday we'll be happy...that we'll going to get that car or that job or that person in our lives who'll going to fix everything for us. But happiness is a mood, not a destination. It's like being tired or hungry. It's not permanent. It comes and goes and that's okay. And if people thought of it that way, they'd find happiness more often."

I paused for a while and made some self reflection,

Why is it always hard for some of us to be happy? I also feel that way most of the times. It's quite hard to be futuristic or "goal oriented". I think this is my case. Unable to fulfill what I think needs to be done according to my set schedule always frustrates me. I know it's wrong but sometimes, I simply can't get away with it. Maybe because I am a person who never support the "Que Sera Sera" thing. I always try to do my best to make things happen. Have I known it earlier that this shouldn't be the right thing, I should have mastered the art of accepting things as they are. Now, it's kind of difficult for me as I was already accustomed to this way of thinking.

Happiness, therefore is a choice. You are happy when you choose to be happy and you are sad when you choose to be sad. Can happiness be equated with contentment? Well, I guess so. You can have that grand mansion, that luxury car and fat check in your pay envelope and yet you are still unhappy. Probably because, you want more. Therefore, the moment you get contented in life, that's the time you'll be happy. Some people experienced happiness when they get things or people they like. When they have already visited the place they like, eat the food they want or when they earn the fame and admiration from others. Some find happiness in simple things like watching the sunset, picking their favorite flowers from the garden, reading a favorite book under a tree on a bright sunny day or simply having a stroll with friends.

As of this stage, I haven't mastered yet the secret to total happiness. There are a hundred questions in my mind on what real happiness is all about. Sometimes, I feel happy and contented, sometimes, I don't.

Well...if you feel the same way that I do, perhaps this story below can help us understand better. We can all learn a lesson from this great old woman!

The 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud lady, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o'clock, with her hair fashionably coifed and makeup perfectly applied, even though she is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today. Her husband of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessary. After many hours of waiting patiently in the lobby of the nursing home, she smiled sweetly when told her room was ready.

As she maneuvered her walker to the elevator, I provided a visual description of her tiny room, including the eyelet sheets that had been hung on her window.

"I love it," she stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year-old having just been presented with a new puppy.

"Mrs. Jones, you haven't seen the room .... just wait." "That doesn't have anything to do with it," she replied. "Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time. Whether I like my room or not doesn't depend on how the furniture is arranged... it's how I arrange my mind.

I already decided to love it! It's a decision I make every morning when I wake up. I have a choice, I can spend the day in bed recounting the difficulty I have with the parts of my body that no longer work, or get out of bed and be thankful for the ones that do. Each day is a gift, and as long as my eyes open I'll focus on the new day and all the happy memories I've stored away ...just for this time in my life.

Old age is like a bank account withdraw from what you've put in. So, my advice to you would be to deposit a lot of happiness in the bank account of memories.

Remember the five simple rules to be happy:

1. Free your heart from hatred.

2. Free your mind from worries.

3. Live simply.

4. Give more.

5. Expect less.

Happy Sunday everyone!!


  1. Tama! I have to admit I often feel down. It actually happens when I think and worry a lot. The prinsipe would always remind me to stop worrying on little things.

    Happiness is actually a decision. If we choose to be unhappy, then so be it. That's why I keep myself busy, it's a way to break the worry habit and also to forget that I feel unhappy at times, hahaha! Mukhang ang gulo ko ata, LOL!

    Thanks for the linky, Krrizy. And also for sharing this inspiring story yet again. You blog never fails to inspire me. I hope you are now feeling a lot better.

    Love and Hugs,

  2. This is a very good read ate Kriz. From the title palang, nakaka-touch na. Thoughts on Happiness. Thank you for sharing the rules on how to be completely happy. Sometimes, we need to be reminded of the things we should take to experience real bliss..

    And like what ate Lainy said, your blog never fails to inspire, not only me, but all your readers. Keep writing great posts ate Kriz.

    Good luck and be happy!

  3. What a beautiful blog post!!! And I totally believe that we do choose whether to be happy or not...I have had a few down days lately, too, and it was so perfect that you stopped by my blog and then I would come here to find this. For me, it all starts with acceptance of whatever is in my life today, even if it doesn't look like the perfect picture I dream of. I'm not saying we are powerless to change things, but knowing the difference between what I can or cannot change is crucial, and then only focussing on what I CAN do differently. :) Come back and see me again! Kathi

  4. @ Lainy, It's my pleasure to share inspiring thoughts and stories and I derived great happiness from it. If I would made you smile each day even for a second, that's a job well done for me! *winks*

    Start the day feeling happy!
    Take Care dear!

  5. @ Algene, Hi sweetie! I'm glad that you loved my post for the day! Thanks for the kind words. It's my pleasure to inspire people especially my readers.(teka...may readers ba ako?) Lol!

    Thanks for the lovely visit! Be happy ha!

  6. @ Kathi, did surprised me on your visit! Thanks for the kind words. I feel inspired to write more.

    It's a pleasure to have visited your site and I'm happy that you take time to visit mine.

    Don't worry, I'll find the time to see u again, soon! Take care!

  7. I believe that the very purpose of our life is to seek happiness. Also the elements that go into making happiness possible are good health, the wealth or material things we accumulate, and fulfilling relationships. However, none of this will produce happiness if our mental attitude is negative. Thanks dear for your inspirational post. :-)

  8. @ Sam D., Hi Sam! Very well said. Each person requires different things to make happiness possible for them but our attitude towards dealing with our everyday life is what matters most. You're welcome dear and thanks for the visit! :)

  9. love the story!
    you are a great storyteller hahaha...that story moves me...i will always remember and will try to live out that 5 rules to be happy...hmmm may bagong wisdom na natutunan
    thanks for sharing

    krizza, hindi naman ako brattish hahaha

  10. Hi Reese! Maybe if all of us can follow the 5 simple rules, it would be a lot easier for us to flash that happy smile everyday. :)

    Thanks for the visit!

  11. Wow! Andami nang comments dito sis ah. Hehehe.. I am soooo late. Sorry, the connection is still down although after reading your post I feel good now remembering our connection almost made me hate PLDT. Haaayyy!

    by the way, very inspiring post you have here. Thanks for sharing sis. I promise to come back again and again when our connection will "came to life"... Hehehe

    Sobrang miss ko na ang kwentuhan with Lainy, Algene and KM. Nasaan na ba si Karen?

  12. thanks for good post. wow you must be going thru something. tis going to be alright.

    the mind is a powerful thing. some things i can add, hapiness is a just thought and likewise worry and fear. choose thoughts and be mindful. hapiness is not a destination but a journey. enjoy the moment and be here now! =)

  13. Hey Krizz! Sumisilip dito bago matulog. It's almost midnight here. Done updating only two of the 7 blogs :-( Di kaya ng powers. Need to hit the sack for now.

    Till tomorrow!

    Nytie nyt! Hugs!

  14. @ Rovie, Sis...san ka ba nagtatago? Hahaha! Di pa ba okay internet connection mo? Ang tagal na noh? Sa katulad kong laptop ang laging kasama sa maghapon, mahirap para sa akin yan (hehehe).

    Thanks for the kind words Sis, if you're feeling down at times, magbasa basa ka lang dito sa mga old posts ko. Hahaha! Madami ka mapupulot dito.

    Si Karenina, nagparamdam sa akin. Walang iniwan na comments or anything but alam kong bumisita sya. Obvious ba? Makikita ko yun sa dash board ko noh? Hahaha!

  15. @ J. Alvarez, well.. thanks for sharing your thoughts here. It's great to hear some good words from new people and acquaintances. I really appreciate it! Thanks for the visit!

  16. @ Lainy, uyy dear, sorry di me nakadaan sayo kagabi kasi actually nakatulugan ko yung laptop ko. Sobrang antok ako, humiga me sandali kasi yung working table ko kadikit lang ng bed ko. Tapos ayun nakatulugan ko yung laptop...naiwang bukas pati internet connection naka on. Grabe! Unconscious bigla. Buti na lang automatic nag o OFF lahat yun pag idle yung user. Haha!! Di kinaya ng powers ko eh. Nagparamdam si Karenina! Whooooo!!!!


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