For the past few days, I've been feeling down and lazy with everything, and been constantly chatting with my blog pal Lainy almost everyday and we discovered that we are sharing the same feelings and sentiments for no apparent reason at all. Then later, we just tried to figure out ourselves what might be the reason for feeling that way. That night after I've written my post for this blog, I slept quite late and was contemplating on what had caused me to feel "down" and "low". The next day, I got a text message which is just actually a forwarded message which reads:
"People get lost when they think of happiness as a destination. We are always thinking that someday we'll be happy...that we'll going to get that car or that job or that person in our lives who'll going to fix everything for us. But happiness is a mood, not a destination. It's like being tired or hungry. It's not permanent. It comes and goes and that's okay. And if people thought of it that way, they'd find happiness more often."
I paused for a while and made some self reflection,
Why is it always hard for some of us to be happy? I also feel that way most of the times. It's quite hard to be futuristic or "goal oriented". I think this is my case. Unable to fulfill what I think needs to be done according to my set schedule always frustrates me. I know it's wrong but sometimes, I simply can't get away with it. Maybe because I am a person who never support the "Que Sera Sera" thing. I always try to do my best to make things happen. Have I known it earlier that this shouldn't be the right thing, I should have mastered the art of accepting things as they are. Now, it's kind of difficult for me as I was already accustomed to this way of thinking.
Happiness, therefore is a choice. You are happy when you choose to be happy and you are sad when you choose to be sad. Can happiness be equated with contentment? Well, I guess so. You can have that grand mansion, that luxury car and fat check in your pay envelope and yet you are still unhappy. Probably because, you want more. Therefore, the moment you get contented in life, that's the time you'll be happy. Some people experienced happiness when they get things or people they like. When they have already visited the place they like, eat the food they want or when they earn the fame and admiration from others. Some find happiness in simple things like watching the sunset, picking their favorite flowers from the garden, reading a favorite book under a tree on a bright sunny day or simply having a stroll with friends.
As of this stage, I haven't mastered yet the secret to total happiness. There are a hundred questions in my mind on what real happiness is all about. Sometimes, I feel happy and contented, sometimes, I don't.
Well...if you feel the same way that I do, perhaps this story below can help us understand better. We can all learn a lesson from this great old woman!
The 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud lady, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o'clock, with her hair fashionably coifed and makeup perfectly applied, even though she is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today. Her husband of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessary. After many hours of waiting patiently in the lobby of the nursing home, she smiled sweetly when told her room was ready.
As she maneuvered her walker to the elevator, I provided a visual description of her tiny room, including the eyelet sheets that had been hung on her window.
"I love it," she stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year-old having just been presented with a new puppy.
"Mrs. Jones, you haven't seen the room .... just wait." "That doesn't have anything to do with it," she replied. "Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time. Whether I like my room or not doesn't depend on how the furniture is arranged... it's how I arrange my mind.
I already decided to love it! It's a decision I make every morning when I wake up. I have a choice, I can spend the day in bed recounting the difficulty I have with the parts of my body that no longer work, or get out of bed and be thankful for the ones that do. Each day is a gift, and as long as my eyes open I'll focus on the new day and all the happy memories I've stored away ...just for this time in my life.
Old age is like a bank account ...you withdraw from what you've put in. So, my advice to you would be to deposit a lot of happiness in the bank account of memories.
Remember the five simple rules to be happy:
1. Free your heart from hatred.
2. Free your mind from worries.
3. Live simply.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less.
Happy Sunday everyone!!
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