Sunday, November 6, 2011

Mayonnaise Jar And Coffee

It's Sunday once again, but instead of feeling relaxed, I feel the other way around. I'm having a lot of stress lately which made me feeling sad and low. I'm trying to combat my feeling by keeping myself busy so I won't have much time to think and worry. I have a lot of things on pending status both here and at home and I cannot plan ahead. I cannot simply move in one direction. I am trying to joke around as much as I could but when I'm alone, I'm simply being attacked by depression.

Whenever I'm being attacked by this kind of feeling, I would normally get a book and read. Afterwhich, I would stop reading and reflect for a while then I would suddenly recall some things in the past. What causes me the stress and worries. Then I would let some good thoughts flow into my mind.

Just like a good story that I would like to share again this time. It's a reflection of our life and the things that matter most to us.

The story is entitled, THE MAYONNAISE JAR AND COFFEE.

Here it goes....

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full.. They agreed that it was.

So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous "yes."

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

"Now," said the professor, as the laughter subsided, " I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things-God, family, your children, your health, your friends, and your favorite passions and things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car. The sand is everything else - the small stuff.

"If you put the sand into the jar first," he continued, "there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your spouse or kids out for dinner.

Maybe even play another 18. There's always time to clean the house and fix the disposal. Take care of the golf balls first, the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand."

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented.

The professor smiled. "I'm glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend."

When things in our lives seem too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day is not enough, when our worries are more than the glories, when friends are very hard to find, when the solutions to our problems are seemingly far.....

Remember the story of the mayonnaise jar and coffee.

Have a great day!



  1. Ayyy. Another inspiring story from you Ate Kriz! I was touched more by what the coffee represents. :) When things seem to be heavy for us to carry, there will always be great persons who will help us carry the load!

    I agree. Set priorities. First things first! Let go of the sand because they do not matter that much. Focus on the big ones! :)

  2. This came very timely, Krizza. Thank you for sharing this post and for inspiring me one more time.

    AS I was about to immerse myself into the loneliness of living solo, this story lightened up my spirit one notch higher. Like you, I have been feeling down for a couple of days now. I cry for no reason at all and yeah, like you, I get occasional depression too. I feel like a full day is not enough to accomplish everything I have set out to do for myself and I get disappointed.

    Thanks for this wonderful share. It has helped me to put things in its proper perspectives. I have to tell myself yet again "One step at a time, Lainy."

  3. Such a great story Krizz. I do hope this one made you feel better.

    I pray that everything in your life will be in place and that the Lord will give you your heart's desire.

    If you need somebody to share some cups of coffee, nandito lang ako. God bless you sis.

  4. @ Algene, thanks dear! You're right...only few people realize but coffee plays a very important role in our lives..well, at least symbolically.:) We normally share our problems and stories with friends over a cup of coffee and this has been used to symbolize "light moments". A time to relax!

    You're my first commenter today Gene! Thanks and Cheers!

  5. @ Lainy, first of all...I wanted to say thank you so much for the constant support visiting my blog. Sometimes, I wish I could entertain you enough with my posts same way I do reading your blogs.

    I don't know that we are on the same boat now. Sometimes, I feel like I almost have everything but, there's something to be missing. Pls don't ask me why because I also don't know :)

    Maybe I'm too focused on my goals...I used to be like this ever since. I feel sorry for myself if things never fall into place. Again, this has to go back on my last post about patience and tolerance. I need to be patient...

    Reading between the lines, I can relate to how u feel Lain. I'm happy that in my own little way sharing this story, I was able to make u feel a bit least even a bit.

    At least hindi ko dinagdagan sakit ng ulo mo sa pagbabasa ng post ko. The worst scenario is if I get a comment like..."Krizza, after kong basahin and post mo, sumakit ang ulo ko." Ohh..that will make me depressed more a hundred fold. Uyyy....biro lang ha! Pinapatawa lang kita. At least di man ako ganu tumatawa lately...kahit yung mga friends ko na lang.

    Take it easy Lain...or should I say,"Take it easy Krizza and Lain"...that too, would pass!

    May u have a wonderful week ahead full of hopes Lainy!

    God Bless!

  6. Hi Rovie! Thank u Sis for the kind wishes and prayers. I am indeed very lucky to have found such beautiful souls like u and the rest of my loyal virtual pals. During the times that I feel very much alone. I would normally open my laptop and get connected with my virtual world, read their posts, their comments and those crazy little things that we share...

    Thanks for being a part of my virtual world!
    Wish u the same thing Rovs...

    Have a fruitful week ahead.

    God Bless!

  7. Yes, this too shall pass, Krizz. Tama ka. We both need patience. It's a great virtue that we need to have.

    Minsan lang mabigat sa kalooban pag meron tayong gusto tapos di natin alam kung ano yon at kung minsan naman, alam natin pero di naman natin alam anong gagawin para makamit eto. It might also be that we set so much aspirations that is too much for us too handle. The tendency would be to blame ourselves for never accomplishing anything. WE end up being too hard on ourselves. Sobrang pareho nga ata tayo ng pinagdadaanan sa ngayon.

    We all encounter a lot of struggles but of course, we can't always wear our heart in our sleeves at the blogs.

    Siempre naman, you have entertained me even beyond your expectation. Ang galing nga netong blog mo eh, malinis, I mean, walang paid oops, hehe, at may katuturan ang mga articles. O ayan! I hope it somehow plastered a smile on your face :-)

    All the Best,

  8. Thanks Lain! Kala mo lang yun...merun din di lang halata. Hahaha.

    Thanks sa muling pagbabalik sa ating chat room. :)

  9. Praying for you Lainz and Krizza.

    Your post sis somehow made me even thankful for living a simple life and being happy and contented for what I have and just pray to be blessed for those that I wish I have.

    I used to feel that way too especially when I was still working and aiming to be successful in all that I do. Gaya nga ng sabi ni Laiz this too shall pass.

    In everything always have a grateful heart because the Lord has given you this challenge dahil alam nyang makakaya ninyo.

    Sa tingin ko nga eh, He is just challenging you kasi naman diba halos na sa inyo na ang lahat. Ganda, Pera, Brains,Loving family, good health at iba pang blessing. Kung perfect ang life ninyo, panu naman yung iba? Hehe mga anak din sila ni Lord.

    I don't know if I'm talking sense here. I just want you guys to feel better. Group hug! and speaking of hug, makakatulong daw sa depression ung you will be able to hug at least 28 times a day. Hug Therapy? Group Hug again! LOL!

  10. hi krizza. i hope your feeling better today. take it easy and breathe. i recommend meditation and yoga! =)

    god bless!

  11. it's more human to get lonely and sulk in one corner than immersing oneself with a bunch of friends laughing with an empty laugh.

    Such a great story reminding us of the few "simple" things that would make us happy without trying to search far enough.
    I am most touch.

  12. Hey Kriz! Kumusta ang araw natin dyan? Hope you're feeling a lot better today. Ako naman, I was feeling a little sick. Didn't report for work, sigh.

    BTW, salamat ng marami sa mga comments mo sa mga old posts ko. Salamat sa pagtyatyaga mong halungkatin ang mga kalurkyhan ko, hahaha! Sobrang nakakataba naman ng puso. I always think I don't write enough but whenever I do, it comes from the heart. Di naman ako poet o artist, at lalo namang di writer, trying hard lang, hahaha!

    BTW, have you tried submitting your blogs at Pag may time ka, try mo. 5 of my 7 blogs are with them. Sila ung pinakaconsistent na affiliate eh kaya loyal ako sa kanila. Ang, ok din.

    Hope everything's going well for you today.


  13. @ Rovs...uyyyy Sis, nagbalik ka! Hahaha. Nahawa ka na ata sa style ni Lainy ah na naging style ko na din now. :)

    Thanks for everything that u said Rovs. Sobrang thank u. Pero parang nagkamali ka ata ng sinulatan na post....parang wala kasi ako nung mga nabanggit mo na attributes eh. Hahaha.

    Of course, you talk sense here...sobrang with sense nga eh may medical advise pa about group hug. :)

  14. @ J. Alvarez, Hi...thanks for coming back here on my site. Thanks din sa concern and sa advise. Hayaan mo, susubukan ko yung advise mo. Thanks.

  15. @ imriz, thanks for your input Sis. It's true sometimes we need to be alone to do some self reflection. It doesn't make sense din to go out and have fun kung hindi naman totoo yung nararamdaman mo. I'm glad that you enjoyed the story. BTW, thanks for the visit, as well..

  16. Hi Lain! OMG parehas na naman tayo. May sakit din me now eh..halos buong maghapon nga ako nasa bed. Nung morning lang ako nag blog at ngayon medyo sumingit lang. Bakit ganun...parehas na naman tayo. Hahaha. Thanks ha sa pagbabalik dito. Maya balikan din kita dyan for more kwentuhan.

  17. May mga ganun talaga sisters? Balikan ha...

    Hope you guys will get well soon.

  18. Hahaha! Nakakatuwa naman at parehong-pareho pa tayo ng dinaramdam. Meron palang ganon? Baka sobrang na-miss lang natin ang beauty ni Karenina, di kaya?

    Nagpamassage ako the night before kasi yong paa ko na-sprain ata kakalakad sa paghahanap ng bagong apartment. Instead na sa paa lang, nagpawhole body massage nako. I was hoping to have the therapeutic and soothing effect pero mukhang napasama pa ata. First time ko nga na nakaramdam ng ganito after a good massage. It often times relieves me of whatever sickness I feel pero yong ngayon, mukhang emotional ata ang dahilan. Hay! Buhay! Siguro rin namiss ko lang ang Prinsipe ko kaya nag-eemote, LOL!

  19. Take it easy lainy. Hinay hinay lang.Makakahanap ka rin ng bagong pad mo na pasok sa panlasa mo. Suggest ko lang...bakit di ka magpatulong kay Big Bro ng Pinoy Big Brother! Open ata sila ngayon eh...Hahaha!! Joke yun???

  20. Hahahaha! Natawa naman ako don, LOL!

    Actually, may nahanap nako. Inaantay ko lang na mabakante yong isang room para mapareserve ko na. It's actually a much smaller place kesa dito sa pad ko ngayon pero may kitchen na, bathroom, tv with cable connection, closet- all in one room :-)

    Naisip ko lang, di ko naman kelangan ng malaki basta ba comfy lang yong living conditions ko. Yong hagdan kasi dito nagpapahirap sa buhay ko, LOL!

  21. Lainz, madaling araw na gising pa ang beauty mo ah. Ok na yung mas maliit. Tama ka, di mo naman kailangan ng malaki dahil nag iisa ka lang naman at sa klase ng life style mo na very busy (as in bisi bisihan lol...), need mo yung madali lang imanage at i maintain unless plano mo magpasweldo ng maid. Tsaka mas okay kung one floor lang for u unless bahain sa area na yan. Sensya na Lainz ha...minsan napapaisip ako kung may sense yung sinasabi ko eh. meron naman di ba? Hehe..


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