Few days ago, I had the chance to have a short talk with my Mom through SKYPE. She's taking medications for nearly a month now due to urinary tract infection (UTI). Before I left home last 06 November, she was complaining to me about her abdomen feeling so heavy and her frequent trips to comfort room to urinate especially during night time. Worry as I was, I did ask Edmar to bring her to the family doctor for consultation. True enough, she really had UTI after having had the urinalysis. Doctor prescribed her some antibiotics to be taken for around 10 days. Unfortunately, the result of her follow up check was unfavorable. The infection still remains. Medicines didn't work out right. So, the Doctor prescribed another set of antibiotics to be taken for another 10 days. I'm a little bit worry because she wasn't cured on the first set of medications that's why I decided to check with her when I had the chat session with Miks. She looks fine but you can see that she is full of worries. Looking through her face at the webcam, I able to figure out that she's really getting older and I can read from her face...the worries, the sadness, and the self pity as any people her age would normally feel. I took a deep breath as I tried to hide my tears as I listen to her melancholies muttered in between sobs. She's complaining about my siblings not visiting her and told me that she's quite sure that she was already forgotten. I tried to console her... telling her that maybe they are just too busy. But deep inside, I can feel her sadness, her longing for love, her thirst for affection. As I look through her wrinkled forehead, her gray hair and drooping eyes...I suddenly felt sad and cannot avoid but to remember those days when she's still strong and active. Well... I would admit that ours is not a perfect mother-daughter relationship, as there were also a lot of qualms and squabbles in between. But the fact still remains... She is my mother and she did her best to make me a better me.
Now...that she is already on the last stage of her life, I can peep through the window of her eyes how lonely it is to be old, weak and feeling unloved.
Before we ended our talk, I tried to comfort her and inspired her to move on and be stronger...if not for herself...at least for us...for me and my kids whom she loved so dearly.
I bid her goodbye with a promise in my heart .. that no matter what... I will try my best to make her happy and feel loved for the remaining years of her life. It is through this point that I recalled a story that I received from a friend through email which I would like to share with you.
" A Mother's letter to a Daughter"...
" A Mother's letter to a Daughter"...
For all the mothers and daughters out there.... this is for you.....
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To My Dearest Daughter,
My dearest daughter...the day that you see me old, I ask that you please have patience, and that above all, you try to understand my dearest daughter that if when I talk to you, I repeat the same things a thousand times, don't interrupt me. Instead, just listen to me and remember a time when I would read to you the same story night after night until you fall asleep. When I do not want to take shower, please don't scold me and please don't try to embarrass me. When you see my ignorance of new technologies, give me the necessary time to learn and please don't roll your eyes or look at me with a mocking face. Remember my dearest, I taught you how to do so many things. The day you notice I became old my dearest daughter, please have patience and above all, please try to understand me. If occasionally, I lose the memory or the thread of our conversation, let me have time to remember. When my old legs won't let me walk as before, give me your hands the same way I did for you when you made your first steps.
And when someday...I tell you that I do not want to live anymore.... that I'm ready to die...please do not get upset or angry. Because my dearest daughter, one day you will understand.... that at my age, we reach a point that we do not live anymore but just exist. When this day comes, you must not feel sad. I ask that you be with me as I journey through the end of my life.. with love and with deep understanding and appreciation of the life that we lived together.... I will thank you with a smile.
I love you my dearest daughter.