Remembering Mom!

Few days ago, I had the chance to have a short talk with my Mom through SKYPE.  She's taking medications for nearly a month now due to urinary tract infection (UTI).  Before I left home last 06 November, she was complaining to me about her abdomen feeling so heavy and her frequent trips to comfort room to urinate especially during night time.  Worry as I was, I did ask Edmar to bring her to the family doctor for consultation.  True enough, she really had UTI after having had the urinalysis.  Doctor prescribed her some antibiotics to be taken for around 10 days.  Unfortunately, the result of her follow up check was unfavorable.  The infection still remains.  Medicines didn't work out right.  So, the Doctor prescribed another set of antibiotics to be taken for another 10 days.  I'm a little bit worry because she wasn't cured on the first set of medications that's why I decided to check with her when I had the chat session with Miks.  She looks fine but you can see that she is full of worries.  Looking through her face at the webcam, I able to figure out that she's really getting older and I can read from her face...the worries, the sadness, and the self pity as any people her age would normally feel.  I took a deep breath as I tried to hide my tears as I listen to her melancholies muttered in between sobs.  She's complaining about my siblings not visiting her and told me that she's quite sure that she was already forgotten.  I tried to console her... telling her that maybe they are just too busy.  But deep inside, I can feel her sadness, her longing for love, her thirst for affection.  As I look through her wrinkled forehead, her gray hair and drooping eyes...I suddenly felt sad and cannot avoid but to remember those days when she's still strong and active.  Well... I would admit that ours is not a perfect mother-daughter relationship, as there were also a lot of qualms and squabbles in between. But the fact still remains... She is my mother and she did her best to make me a better me. 

Now...that she is already on the last stage of her life, I can peep through the window of her eyes how lonely it is to be old, weak and feeling unloved.

Before we ended our talk, I tried to comfort her and inspired her to move on and be stronger...if not for herself...at least for us...for me and my kids whom she loved so dearly.

I bid her goodbye with a promise in my heart .. that no matter what... I will try my best to make her happy and feel loved for the remaining years of her life.  It is through this point that I recalled a story that I received from a friend through email which I would like to share with you. 


" A Mother's letter to a Daughter"...

For all the mothers and daughters out there.... this is for you.....

 
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To My Dearest Daughter,

My dearest daughter...the day that you see me old, I ask that you please have patience, and that above all, you try to understand my dearest daughter that if when I talk to you, I repeat the same things a thousand times, don't interrupt me.  Instead, just listen to me and remember a time when I would read to you the same story night after night until you fall asleep.  When I do not want to take shower, please don't scold me and please don't try to embarrass me.  When you see my ignorance of new technologies, give me the necessary time to learn and please don't roll your eyes or look at me with a mocking face.  Remember my dearest, I taught you how to do so many things.  The day you notice I became old my dearest daughter, please have patience and above all, please try to understand me.  If occasionally, I lose the memory or the thread of our conversation, let me have time to remember.  When my old legs won't let me walk as before, give me your hands the same way I did for you when you made your first steps.

And when someday...I tell you that I do not want to live anymore.... that I'm ready to die...please do not get upset or angry.  Because my dearest daughter, one day you will understand.... that at my age, we reach a point that we do not live anymore but just exist.  When this day comes, you must not feel sad.  I ask that you be with me as I journey through the end of my life.. with love and with deep understanding and appreciation of the life that we lived together.... I will thank you with a smile.

I love you my dearest daughter.

Your Mother

Comments

  1. Nakakaiyak naman to ma. I love this article. :)

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  2. This is very touching!

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  3. I myself feel that that my heart was broken into pieces as I write this article.

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  4. OMG I Can't prevent my eyes from getting moistened while reading your article Tita! It touches my heart and soul walang makapantay sa binibigay mong pagmamahal kay Lola kaya alam ko kung ano man nakikita nila Mika & Edmar sa Love na binibigay mo kay Lola ganun din gagawin nila sayo! I salute you for being a good daughter and a kind mother and also for being a wonderful Tita in the world! i love you, mwaaahhh!

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  5. Aww, that's beautiful, Krizza. I recently lost my dad and I have lost my mom 6 years ago...I can feel your love and worry for your mom...she will be included in my prayers and wishing she get well soon...tell the people around her to show her their love. Oldies (especially women, I guess, like my late grandma) are extra-sensitive,so tell them to be patient.

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  6. The letter is really touching and compels me to really be more patient not only to my mommy but to my daddy as well. They are now in their early 60s and when I think of losing them, I get frightened.

    I hope thought that your mother will be better. Cranberry pill is available in our country. This is better than cranberry juice. And please tell her to drink more water :)

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  7. Aw so touching. Lucky that my mother is living with us already. She's suffering from mild Parkinson's now and she's so skinny. She used to look so tough and strong before. We were constant companion when I was still studying. I remember she also stayed up late at night to accompany me while doing my thesis paper. But now, she looks so weak and I can't help but feel so sad when I look into her eyes. I don't know why...

    Anyway, you can try serpetina plant for your mother's UTI. It's very effective and natural. Un lang it's very bitter.

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  8. I remember my Loly (grandma) with this post. I can see in her how hard it is to live with sickness age caused her. But she's a jolly person, always sees the bright sides of things, that makes me appreciate life more.

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  9. I'm also concerned bout my Mom's health and worried most of the time. She's the only one I have, and I'll make sure that she gets what she want and stay healthy as possible. Hope your Mom feel better soon..:)

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  10. yay, a poignant letter...i like to hug my mom

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  11. I hope and pray your mother gets better soon. That's an easily treatable ailment sis. If the current treatment still doesn't work, better have a second opinion also. All the best and always be there for your mother, even if you're far away.

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  12. This is so touching, Krizza. This reminds me of the saying that goes something like this: Remember to love your parents. We are so busy growing up, we often forget they are also growing old.

    About your mom's condition, I agree with Farida's suggestion. Also, how about seeking for second opinion from another doctor?

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  13. Hi, Krizza! Hope your mom is fine na. Farida is right. Cranberry juice will help a lot. UTI is absolutely painful and deadly. Sometimes the microbes are resistant na to the antibiotic that is why the infection still remains...

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  14. Very touching. I miss my mom. I lost her when I was only 4. Still, I longed for a warm embrace of a mother. I have a stepmom, though nothing compares with a real one. My stepmom never hugged me at all.

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  15. That is so touching! I remember my mom, how sad she had been because I was not with her on her last stage. If only I can turn back time I would chose to with her, with them my parents.

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  16. na-touch naman ako, i missed my mom
    hope your mom is ok na

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  17. That's a really touching post about your mum.. I'm love reading about the bond that both of you have.

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  18. Nakakaiyak! It's really hard to be away. I also speak regularly to may parents through Skype. I give them comfort through words, but I know it is always never enough.

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  19. this is so touching. since i was born, it as my grandma that took care of me and raised me. she's old now and i can't help but feel really sad whenever we talk on the phone and she tells me the body pains she's feeling. if only i could be with her in the province... i remember when she was still young and strong and i was still a little girl, now she's getting older and feeling some pains and sickness here and there due to old age, i can't help but cry. about your mom, i agree with everyone, try cranberry, buko juice din daw is great, lots of water and maybe a second opinion to be sure. God bless.

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  20. now i suddenly miss my mom. she has gone back to surigao for the meantime because she teaches there but she's flying in and out of cebu during special occasions. i hope your mom recovers. just be more patient and understanding. that's all they need from us these days... to know that they're not forgotten.

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  21. This brought tears to my eyes. My mom is battling cancer now and we're really just trying to make every single day the best day for her. My mom has always been my pillar of strength, my number one supporter, my best friend. I can't imagine life without her. :-(

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  22. I am touched by your sharing, sis. It's sad to see our moms hurting really. We want to see them always healthy and up and about. Hugs to you sis! :)

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  23. It's sad that the children sometimes forget the parents when they grow old. =(

    Your post is sweet and also sad. But one thing it has left me, it reminds me of giving time and joy to my parents and grandparents while we can.

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  24. i had to agree, buko juice tlga. got uti when i was pregnant a that helped me :)

    i love my mom too, and im trying to show my affections to her in every single way i can, especially now that im a mother na rin.

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  25. Praying for the fast recovery of your mom sis. :) God Bless!

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  26. I hope you and your siblings will find the time to see you mom. I lost mine 8 years ago and the pain of losing her never really goes away.

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  27. this made me so emotional now i miss my parents more.

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