"Train up a child in a way he should grow, and when he gets old, he will not depart from it"
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It was a long day today! After checking out from work, I had the chance to do the laundry, iron the clothes, make a brief call to Miks in the Philippines and watch my favorite Korean series which is one of the many DVD series that I bought in the Philippines during my vacation. But before, I finally go to bed, I tried to look for some magazines inside my cabinet so I can have few readings before I go to sleep. It was during this time that I saw a hand crafted box with my name painted on it. Inside the box was a colorful hand crafted rosary with wooden beads and a 3 pages typewritten letter full of emotions from a young boy. The letter contained an assurance of love and appreciation. This was the box that my son, Edmar handed to me before I left home to take my flight back to Cambodia. I would admit that there were several times we fought over some issues on the house and school but we usually end up forgiving each other.
As I begin to look back in the past, during my kids formative years, I recalled those days when I struggled to become a good if not the best Mom for both of them. I've always been a working Mom but this does not stop me from guiding them every step of the way. From the time that they begin to walk, go to school, join school competitions, participate in school activities. I'm always and will always be a part of their achievements. My efforts paid off, these two kids grew up to be fine persons .... disciplined, intelligent, loving and responsible.... (proud mom isn't it?)
I couldn't ask for more.....The countless achievements that both of them gave me really made me fulfilled and happy. Whatever they are now is a result of hard work and I am mighty proud of it. Now, I realized that a good and strong foundation is very important in rearing children. What the old folks used to say is somehow true...that the foundation and training that children received during their formative years will always reflect and dictate what would be of them in the future.
I have actually applied so many methods in an effort to bring out the best in them... let me count the ways:
1.) I planted into their minds the value of education and the hard work that has to go with it.
2.) I trained them to give out their best in everything they do. Projects should always be submitted on time, unique and presentable.
3.) I taught them how to set priorities. Home works and school commitments should always come first before pleasure.
4.) I applied to them the "reward system". I always buy gifts and give monetary rewards for a job well done to make them inspired and strive for more.
5.) I made an open line communication with their teachers and friends to monitor their progress and to understand their thoughts.
6.) I taught them the value of time and how to manage it more effectively.
7.) I taught them the importance of having a "sense of responsibility" and how this can affect the kind of life that they would have in the future.
8.) I gave a strong emphasis to perseverance and taught them how this positive virtue can help them achieve their goals.
9.) Telling stories is an effective way of giving them practical lessons in life. How other people failed and succeed can serve as an "eye opener" for them.
10.) It was clearly explained to them that being disciplined and organized can create a positive impression. Keeping the house tidy and training them to observe orderliness and cleanliness can very well reflect how they manage themselves.
These were just few of the so many things that I taught them. I'm still on the process of guiding them and so far, we are on the right track.
There is no parenting manual that would teach us how to train up a child but your experiences in life as an individual and as a parent together with some researches and studies can be of great help in achieving your goal of being a good, if not the best Mom that you could be.....